To Annie, please:
I am a 47-year-old lady who has been dating Greg for about six years. I truly can’t picture being with anyone else right now since I’m so content with him. One thing stands out: He hasn’t made a proposal, and I’m not sure if he ever will.
I almost feel desperate for him to pop the question now, but I don’t want to drive him away and destroy our relationship. Additionally, I do not want to waste any more years in a relationship that is doomed.
He kind of dismissed it when I brought it up to him once, saying, “One day, when the time is right.” However, I’m beginning to think that day may never come. He had a nasty divorce from his last marriage, and I’ve noticed that he always seems a touch resentful of the idea. We’ve all heard the phrase, “Let’s see how long that lasts,” whenever someone we know gets engaged.
Recently, several friends and family members have asked when we re getting married, and it s so embarrassing to me that I don t have an answer. I’m too afraid it may backfire, but one buddy suggested that I offer him an ultimatum. I know he loves me just as much as I do, and I don’t want to lose him.
How can I discuss marriage with him without coming across as pressured but still making it clear how important this is to me? Should I just be content to be in this wonderful relationship, or am I mistaken for desiring this commitment? Wondering and Waiting
Dear Wondering and Waiting:
For some people, marriage is the ultimate symbol of love and commitment. Others could take it or leave it. Still others are fundamentally opposed to it, arguing they don t need paperwork to prove their love.
The only way to figure out Greg s stance is to talk to him directly. It sounds like he is holding onto some bitterness and fear from his first marriage, which can be worked through with communication and the help of a good therapist.
If marriage is a nonnegotiable for you, tell Greg sooner rather than later. You don t want to stay with somebody who can t ultimately give you what you want.
How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner? is out now! Annie Lane s second anthology featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation is available as a paperback and e-book. Visithttp://www.creatorspublishing.comfor more information. Send your questions for Annie Lane [email protected].
COPYRIGHT 2024CREATORS.COM
More Advice
- Dear Abby: Should I thank her after she hit my son with a car?
- Dear Annie: I m in love with my best friend s ex-wife
- Dear Abby: Politics has driven a wedge between me and my longtime friends
- Dear Annie: Late-life marriage can destroy financial security
- Dear Abby: My girlfriend thinks I m cheating with my much-younger hiking buddy
Note: Every piece of content is rigorously reviewed by our team of experienced writers and editors to ensure its accuracy. Our writers use credible sources and adhere to strict fact-checking protocols to verify all claims and data before publication. If an error is identified, we promptly correct it and strive for transparency in all updates, feel free to reach out to us via email. We appreciate your trust and support!
Leave a Reply